Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe. Andrew J. Bernstein amicablydependdivorce share on social
The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances. Andrew J. Bernstein boschallengecircumstance Change image and share on social
The number of stressors has multiplied exponentially: traffic, money, success, work/life balance, the economy, the environment, parenting, family conflict, relationships, disease. As the nature of human life has become far more complicated, our ancient stress response hasn't been able to keep up. Andrew J. Bernstein ancientbalancecomplicate share on social
When a friend is sick, I see the situation for what it is, not what it isn't, and I offer to help as much as she wants, not as much as I want. Andrew J. Bernstein friendoffersick Change image and share on social
The elusive truth is that there is nothing stress-producing in the physical world. Things simply are. Molecules move. Light and sound appear. Andrew J. Bernstein elusivelightmolecule Change image and share on social
Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today. Andrew J. Bernstein beliefchallengefeeling share on social
We all enjoy pushing ourselves to accomplish our objectives. But we don't need stress to get there. Andrew J. Bernstein accomplishenjoyobjective Change image and share on social
It's time we learned the truth about stress. It's time we identified the thoughts that actually create our stress and learned to dismantle them one by one. Andrew J. Bernstein createdismantleidentify Change image and share on social
Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements. Andrew J. Bernstein buildclosecounterfactual Change image and share on social
Some people are so used to experiencing stress that they don't remember what life was like without it. Andrew J. Bernstein experiencelifepeople Change image and share on social